Not incognito and The Code

Incognito means “not known” – but everyone now knows Ritchie Incognito’s hate filled messages to teammate Jonathan Martin.  The Code says, “I will respect the dignity of every human being and will not be abusive or dehumanizing of another…”  The simple truth is that we all know we are to respect others – so why does this happen?  Is it insecurity, meanness, or something else?  When and why are you tempted to resort to name calling?  Every person hears things said to which they should object, but more often than not we are silent.  To find the courage to do the right thing it is usually helpful to think about it ahead of time and to have a strategy such as: “if I hear this…. then I will say this…”  Do you have such a strategy?